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 Be on time. Unpunctuality is a fault with *no* redeeming features. (However, if your date is late, don't let it spoil the evening -- remain pleasant!)
Wear something that makes you feel pretty -- an outfit that's proved itself, with comfortable shoes.
Tell yourself you're not nervous, just excited.
Read a newspaper or watch a news program that day so you'll have something to talk about and sound as if you know what's happening in the world.
If you can begin with the exchange of warm relaxed smiles, you have a lot going for you.
Be open -- to him, his plans, and the shape the evening takes. Take time to listen to what he has to say.
Compliment him.
Use every opportunity to be observant, sensitive, perceptive, and appreciative of what your date does or may have done.
If something embarrassing happens, "confess" so that you can both laugh over it.
Avoid arguing over things that won't cause either of you to lose a limb. In other words, chill.
Don't look for a fight. Debate topics, don't argue them.
If you're having a good time, let him know it.
Call him because you've just heard something that he'd love to know about, a joke on a favorite subject, or a piece of news relating to one of his heroes. He will feel that you two are really on the same beam, and it will encourage him to think of you when *he* has news he wants to share with someone.
Be busy. Projects of your own make for much more interesting discussion than last night's TV program.
Caring about each other more than petty victories is the essence of positive loving. Equality is not measured by a single act.
Avoid talking about your ex-boyfriends, past relationships, etc...
Never degrade yourself in front of your date. If he gives you a compliment don't brush it off or say something rude about yourself, say thank you and even if you don't act like you enjoyed it.
Don't date anyone who you wouldn't someday marry.
Communicate how you feel by being honest. Sometimes honestly can hurt but if put gently it can help a lot.
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